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I’ve been consciously practicing presence—truly being here, right now, especially with my children. I want to show up for them with my whole heart, fully attuned, without distraction. Today, I walked over to my 10-year-old son, who was curled up on the couch lost in his screen time. The moment he noticed me, he quietly got up and slipped away to his room, lying down on his bed. My heart sank a little, but I followed gently and said, “I just want to be with you for a few minut

தற்போதைய தருணத்தில் முழுமையாக இருப்பது (மைண்ட்ஃபுல்னெஸ்) பெற்றோருக்கு மிகவும் உதவியாக இருக்கிறது. இது மன அழுத்தத்தையும் உணர்ச்சி வெடிப்புகளையும் குறைத்து, கோபமாக எதிர்வினையாற்றாமல் சிந்தித்து பதிலளிக்க உதவுகிறது. குழந்தைகளுடன் ஆழமான உறவை உருவாக்க கவனமாக கேட்டு புரிந்துகொள்ள உதவுகிறது, அவர்களின் உடனடி தேவைகளையும் உணர்வுகளையும் நன்றாக உணர உதவுகிறது. மேலும், அமைதியையும் உணர்ச்சிகளை கட்டுப்படுத்துவதையும் பெற்றோர் முன்மாதிரியாக காட்டுவதால், குழந்தைகளும் அதை கற்றுக்கொண்டு தன்னம்பிக

Many Asian immigrant parents, carrying silent wounds from war, poverty, or one-chance-only education systems, show their fierce love by pushing their children toward perfect grades and bullet-proof careers—because to them, anything less feels like handing their child the same fear they fled. They give everything (money, time, sleep) but often don’t have the words, hugs, or tools to say “I love you just as you are,” because no one ever said it to them. Their children grow up a

Understanding the Inner Child Lately, I’ve been noticing how my inner alarm goes off during bath time with my kids. I always feel overwhelmed, irritated, and angry. There’s this sudden pressure in my chest, a wave of urgency and anxiety that hits me out of nowhere. When I’m helping my kids in the shower — hearing the water, the splashing, their pure giggles, and total presence in the moment — something inside me tightens. I try to enjoy their bath-time joy. But every giggle i

A few years ago, the idea of setting healthy boundaries—felt like speaking a foreign language I’d never even heard. I used to believe if someone crossed a line, I’d swallow the discomfort, convince myself it wasn’t a big deal, and request them to stop, react to them, or let them keep going. The quiet needs of my innerchild went unnoticed, buried under layers of “be nice,” “don’t rock the boat,” and “they don’t mean it.” Then my conscious journey began. Slowly, like building a

8-Second Minds, 2-Minute Hearts: Gen Z Nurses & the Healing Gaze My dad lay under a thin, crackling hospital blanket, the fabric cool and stiff against his skin. The Gen Z nurses entered quietly, their sneakers whispering over the polished floor. The WOW ( Workstation on Wheels) cart rolled ahead like a glowing lantern, its screen casting a soft blue shimmer across their tired faces. They moved with practiced care, drawing meds with a quick 'click' of the syringe cap, the sha

Today I established a firm, loving boundary around my 10 year old son’s Halloween candy haul to protect his teeth ahead of his dental procedure. I calmly explained that the candy is going on a “medical vacation” and locked it in the kitchen cabinet, emphasizing it’s a non-negotiable health rule—like wearing a seatbelt. He resisted fiercely, stomping and yelling, “That’s not fair—I got it from trick-or-treating!” I stayed calm, repeated the doctor’s warning about sugar and pro

Assigning too much homework to kindergarten-aged children (typically 5-6 years old) can have several detrimental impacts on their development, health, and family life. Research from child psychologists, educators, and organizations like the American Academy of Pediatrics consistently highlights that young children thrive on play-based learning rather than structured academic tasks at home. Below are the key negative effects, supported by evidence: Increased Stress and Anxiety

Snowy Lessons: A Journey from Ego to Presence-💕 Last California’s crisp winter, I planned a perfect day on the snowy mountain. I found a website showcasing snow activities—sparkling slopes and thrilling rides under a bright blue sky. “This is it,” I thought, imagining the kids’ laughter echoing through the frosty air. I showed my son the site, but he frowned, saying, “It’ll be crowded for the rides. I don’t want to go.” My ego bristled, dismissing his words, and I pushed for

Last night, I went all in on mac and cheese. My son’s obsessed with it. It’s his dinner favorite. I wanted it to be next-level awesome. I poured in extra cream. I plopped in more butter. I grated fancy cheddar like a pro. I stirred that pot like I was on Chopped. Then, oops. I got distracted. The bottom of the pan scorched. Just a bit, but enough to make me wince. I scrambled to save it. More cheese. A dash of salt. It looked okay, so I served it up, holding my breath. My dau

My son repeated the word "Dei"(tamil) I used to call him. It was my command word now and my dad's intimidating word back then. His voice echoed it back. Each time my son said the word 'dei' I felt like a sharp sting. My heart aches, muscle tightened, . I hated that word now. I never noticed its edge before. My son’s innocent, defiant tone showed it to me. I got angry. I told him to stop. He grinned and said it louder. His words sparked my nerves. My ego flared up. I saw his d

Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys in life. Every parent wants to raise happy, healthy, and successful...

Parenting is a journey filled with joy, challenges, and growth. Many parents find themselves repeating patterns from their own...

Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys in life. As parents, we often find ourselves juggling responsibilities,...